Free Wedding Photography Contest!

Today I am busy packing and preparing to move out-of-state for my summer internship.   I want to share with you another awesome opportunity for those getting married in 2013 – North Carolina wedding photographer EmilieCarol Photography is hosting a contest for free wedding photography.  I featured EmilieCarol Photography as an already affordable, great photographer, and her wedding giveaway  All the details are found here, and you can see even more pictures here.  Good Luck!

EmilieCarol Photography

EmilieCarol Photography

 

24 days to go and the Wedding Nightmares begin…

Wedding Zen

Wedding Zen

Now that final exams are essentially over (one paper to go!), I unfortunately have had time to realize that its only 24 days until the “Big Day.” (Please, read that with irony.)  Which most likely explains my nightmare from last night.  It seems that all my repressed fears of our wedding are bursting out now that I have finally took a moment to sleep:  the food never showed up, my parents decided to go watch basketball instead of attend the reception, half the guests were lost in the half-mile trek between the ceremony and reception venue and –  worst of all – no one danced.

Thankfully, I woke up.  Despite the fact that the Knot cheerfully told me this morning that I still have 38 items on my to-do list (design ceremony programs, make a kids plan, get a marriage license…) I realize that it will be okay if we don’t cross everything off our to-do list.  (Except maybe the marriage license – we’re going to get that tomorrow!)  Our guests have been to a wedding and can figure out our traditional ceremony without reading the subtitles.  As for the kiddies, all they really need is cake and a dance floor to be happy.  

In the next 24 days it would be nice to figure out my “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.”  But, I also have to write a final paper, move out-of-state, start a new job, and be a bridesmaid for one of my best friends.  Somehow, those things are taking a bit higher priority than writing out my seating chart…

So for my friends that are so graciously inquiring, yes, I am excited.  But no, it’s not all done yet.  Sometimes I have nightmares, but usually when I am awake I replace them  with a certain degree of wedding zen.  I have a ton of things on my to-do list between now and May 27, but most of them are Life Things, not designing programs things, so we’ll see how those programs turn out. 

Free Wedding Photography Contest!

Today is my last final exam! I promise that I will have a longer post for tomorrow, but now I am cramming all the last-minute details I can into my already-drained brain.  I did want to pass along this awesome opportunity for those getting married in 2013 – Charlotte wedding photographers Meet the Burks are hosting a contest for free wedding photography.   All the details are found here, and if you’re curious about their super awesome pictures then see below!

Meet the Burks Wedding Photography

Meet the Burks Wedding Photography

3 Things Not to Say to a Bride a Month before her Wedding

 My friend Jenna wrote today’s post as her wedding is fast approaching.  While part of the post is laughing at the absurd comments we receive as brides, Jenna also acknowledges that weddings are not “your day.”  That weddings are much more – they are for our families, our community, and our partners.  

With 23 days to go until my wedding, most of the details are finalized. As I sit in my tiny apartment besieged by wedding paraphernalia, I have too much time to take stock. Throughout what has felt like an eternal (two-year) engagement, I feel like I have heard it all. First, there were the nosey coworkers inquiring about my budget (or lack thereof). Then, my mother’s long-lost friend offered to take lingerie photos of me as a gift for my husband-to-be.  I can never hope to list all of the things that are better left unsaid, but I’ve put together a list of the most common offenders. Please accept them as humble advice from a woman on the edge.

1. “Your parents must be thrilled!”

Someone who throws out this line either had perfect family harmony during her wedding, or more likely, isn’t married yet. Clearly she doesn’t know my parents, or she would know that the last time they were “thrilled” was when Walgreen had a three-for-one on Scott bathroom tissue.  No one knows your parents like you do, and you probably didn’t know your parents as well as you thought you did before you started planning a wedding. The bottom line: This is a silly thing to say. Either you’re stating the obvious, or you’re tapping the deepest well of stress and anxiety that exists for most women. Do you like those odds?  I didn’t think so.

2. “It’s getting close to your date. How excited are you!?!” 

For me, this is like “Your dog just died. Aren’t you sad?” Of course I would be sad if my dog died.  Of course I’m excited about my wedding. But I’m also wrestling with apprehensions I didn’t even know I had. I find myself pondering the meaning of marriage, and if I am vainly trying to make it mean something it doesn’t. With three weeks to go, I am still desperately reconciling my little-girl-princess-dreams with my working-adult wedding budget. I’m teary, edgy, hopeful, worried, homicidal, and at least three other kinds of –cidal.  For brides without children, we are experiencing the most wonderful, scary and complex cocktail of emotions in our lives so far. Please, if you ask us something like this, pull up a chair, it’s going to take a minute.    

And, speaking of little-girl-princess-dreams…

Princess Dreams

3. “Just remember: It’s your day!”

I encountered my fair share of ideological conflicts while wedding planning: my family is Southern, his is Irish-Italian from Massachusetts. My family is very conservative, his isn’t. We wanted a sit-down dinner, they wanted punch and nuts. The biggest stand-off was whether or not it would be a wet or dry reception (my parents couldn’t have been more horrified if we’d planned to sacrifice a goat).

When I lamented the dilemma to my friends, they uniformly responded with the battle cry of the modern bride: “You should have what you want! It’s Your Day!” To be fair, it is our day, and our money, but I struggled to make people understand why the decision to have a dry wedding was the only one that was possible. For me, being happy on “my day” is seeing my family happy – not disappointed, offended, or absent. As inflexible and unsolicited as some of the opinions I struggled with were, what really pushed me over the edge was the suggestion that making my family comfortable constituted a failing on my part.

“It’s your day” tells a lie. Perhaps it is true for someone with unlimited resources, whose friends and family are unconditionally interested in her happiness. I’ve never met someone for whom this is true. Money gets tight, friends have lives of their own, and family expectations will conflict with your own in fundamental ways. This is reality, and it’s far-flung from the silliness of the “it’s your day” mantra.

May 6th  may not be, in every single aspect, my day.  Regardless,  my wedding day celebrates the fact that I am beginning a new chapter in my life; the one that I have chosen, with the man who makes me happy. Nothing anyone says cans change that. 

Nine Bridesmaids dresses for $69.99 available at Target everywhere!

Normally I would wait and post this in the morning, but you guyyysss – Target is now selling bridesmaid dresses!  

Target’s Bridesmaid Collection features 9 styles, 3 fabrics, and 17 colors.  All of them ring in at $69.99 or less – perfect for your frugal budget and much less than similar J.Crew styles.   As an additional shopping bonus, Google for Target coupon codes – this one will save you an extra $5 off of $50 and free shipping!

Here’s a sneak peek of these fun, classy frocks (click the individual pictures to enlarge!):

What do you think? Would you consider Target for your bridesmaids dresses?